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  • party of one.

    February 12th, 2026
    There is no perfect child.
    There is no time like the present.
    There is no one coming to rescue us.
    There is no reason for alarm.

    There is no guru.
    There is no method.
    There is no one coming to teach us.
    There is no natural law.

    There is no going back.
    There is no use in crying.
    There is no one coming to save us.
    There is no better time.

    There is no perfect pitch.
    There is no top tier.
    There is no one coming to dazzle us.
    There is no true blue.

    There is no Mother Nature.
    There is no bird in the tree.
    There is no one coming to restore us.
    There is no light on the porch.

    There is no moon for the moon.
    There is no center of the universe.
    There is no one coming to judge us.
    There is no will to matter.

    There is no angel that fell.
    There is no demon that tempts.
    There is no one coming to guide us.
    There is no last day.

    There is no sunset.
    There is no alpha dog.
    There is no one born to love us.
    There is no last word.

    There is just a celestial thread
    that we hold for safety,
    that we pluck for sound,
    that we discover and trust.

    A kind of writing-myself-into-a-corner exercise inspired by Paul Averitt's "Saying Goodbye"
  • living room.

    February 8th, 2026
    A rare morning with nothing
    to grade, no one to pick up.
    His teenagers were asleep,
    His wife was in the shower.

    He made a coffee,
    put on his earbuds,
    sat in the still living room
    of his comfy house.

    He thought, before pushing play.
    “What can a guy even learn
    at one point five speed (or worse)?”

    Earbuds on transparent mode,
    he could just make out
    the clicking of the dog’s paws.

    He’d have to get up
    to take him out & make sure
    the coyotes & bobcats
    weren’t out & about.

    (It is the suburbs,
    but the animals don’t know.)

    Softer, his wife’s footsteps come.
    She laughs at some FB post.
    Her eyes, clean, joyful, turned up —
    her dark almond eyes.

    She looks five years old,
    like in that one old photo,
    seated between her brothers,
    her whole body saying “cheese”.

    She looks just like that.

    He joins her in the kitchen.
    They talk and take the dog out
    together in their pjs.

    A boy, a girl, & the dog.
    The kids still asleep.

    Another sort of jueju, this one inspired by a prompt suggested by Tricia Ebarvia & Kim Parker -- "What's saving your life right now?"


  • child’s play.

    December 19th, 2025

    His hat & his belt,
    his stance & his stare
    all announce the gravity
    of this moment at the plate.

    He'll finally get to run --
    a rarity in this game.

    I lean against the chain links
    with the other dads,
    letting them chatter,
    knowing that he knows
    I am there, watching
    behind the hot cage of boys.

    He steps to the plate,
    plants and grinds his cleats
    in the white striped box.
    I feel something pool
    deep in my stomach, worry
    that he'll miss, or worse,
    that he'll be thrown out at first.
    But he sees the pitch’s arc
    and he knows. He knows.

    A ping of aluminum,
    and a flash over
    the dad who's pitching.

    I gasp at my boy,
    delight in his hopeful speed.



    This one is years old. I've written about this subject, this child before : )

  • grandpa’s hands.

    December 18th, 2025
    It wasn’t here, but it looked sorta like this.
    We stopped at the farm
    because Mari wanted to see
    her grandparents.

    The highway turned
    to farm road
    to cracked blacktop
    to gravel winding
    between rows
    I couldn't identify.

    A straw hat moved
    among the rows, stopped.
    A shot ran out. I jumped
    in the back seat.

    "Grandpa must've found a snake."

    I walked with Mari
    to the house, comically citified
    in vintage store Dickies & Vans.
    Grandpa shook my hand,
    a child's hand in his rough, raw
    shotgun hands.

    We drank chicory coffee,
    eating a storebought lemon cake.

    "Come see the peaches."

    Grandpa plucked one
    hanging deep in the boughs.
    We ate beneath the trees
    heavy with fruit,
    sequined by the sun.
  • thin blue line.

    December 9th, 2025
    I have never known
    the name of the creek
    that winds through the neighborhood,
    brackish, slow, beside the road,

    but I have smiled at
    its myriad surprises,
    gifts unique to inhuman
    spaces everywhere --

    burrs, spores, and flowers,
    rainbowed still water,
    dragonflies & unseen birds
    resting, drinking, taking flight.

    A Google maps search
    reveals the name (White Rock Creek),
    a name neither fitting nor
    jarring. I log off.

    And in my mind, see
    it as I know it, nameless,
    wild, quietly following
    its own old path through

    our too busy lives.
  • the whole nine yards.

    December 5th, 2025
    Dennis Keeley, from A Survey of the Quotitdian Landscape
    Any less than ten yards, you have to punt.
    The momentum lost, you now hold a line.
    Back & forth it goes, ten yards the standard.

    But something matters about the near miss.
    Falling short does not equal standing still.
    Seeing the summit awes like reaching it.

    Go the whole nine yards. Notice the distance--
    beyond your reach but within your sight,
    close enough to go back where you belong.
  • i read: october & november 2025.

    November 25th, 2025

    In 2018, I decided to keep track of my reading. I kept things in that same space for four years, until things got pretty unwieldy. I took great pride in row after row of completed book, took great pride in the difficulty & variety of what was there. When I decided to write more deliberately, though, I moved my reading reflections over here.

    There’s no row after row of book covers. And as I moved away from social media in 2025, I am more and more ambivalent about this part of the blog, a part that is by no means half of it, no matter what the headings & tags might suggest. I am reading for myself mostly, but at some level, I know that this space will hold me accountable.

    I try to take the barest of notes these days — unsuccessfully, seeing as teacher-reading habits are ingrained in me for the best. I try to read deeply but briskly, to remind myself that I am in control of the pace of a reading, but that the pace should be close to the level of speech. To read at the pace of research would be for whatever readers happen upon this space, not for me.

    Which is a lengthy way of saying that I lost track of what I read these weeks.

    Kingsley Amis’ The Alteration is a horrifying and funny alternate history set in 1976 England. There’s a lot of his alternate history that was beyond my knowledge (particularly PM Wilson, the model for that novel’s pope), but I didn’t let that bother me too much. I hung onto the deep critique / examination of the cost of faith and the demands of power. And I was dazzled by the ways that Shakespeare & Keats, de Kooning & Sartre & others were reimagined in this novel that I’m certain I purchased because NYRB published it.

    Plum Bun: A Novel Without a Moral by Jessie Redmon Fauset is a fantastic novel about sisterhood, about NYC, about the varieties of love, and primarily about passing. I’m pretty sure I bought it because of this article on Fauset’s astonishing career as an editor & encourager of Harlem Renaissance-era authors & poets.

    The Birds by Tarjei Vesaas is my favorite book of this year. It’s one of two Norwegian books I read this month. The other, The Copenhagen Trilogy, is (depending on which part you’re reading) a stark or direct, moving or frustrating, hopeful or jarring account of growing into one’s best & worst selves; it’s a fantastic work of nonfiction, with no predictable tropes or self-aggrandizing airs. Back to The Birds, a novel centered on Mattis, a middle-aged man with mental challenges living with his middle-aged sister Hege. Their life is predictable & small — knitting sweaters, looking for work, making allowances & suffering for one another in the ways that only middle-aged unmarried siblings can. Until a sign comes that Mattis alone can read, and until a man comes that Hege alone can need. It’s realistic in the most painful ways and magical in the most realistic ways. It’s got one of the five best endings of any novel anywhere.

    I definitely read more, but that’s what I can remember.

  • parking lot sapling.

    October 22nd, 2025
    Ours is a campus distracting, 
    downright manic in its care. Counselors,
    specialists & advisors lining
    its expensive halls. Every student an honors
    student. So the manicured
    lawns & catalogued trees fit.
    One tree so young no bird
    could find room to nest in it.
    One tree in a line of dozens
    not yet tagged but firmly roped
    to the ground, a blue ribbon
    low on its wrist-thick trunk. Hope
    springs eternal for small things.
    Listen for its wind-tousled rustlings.

  • the good life.

    October 6th, 2025
    My photo from this thread devoted to clouds
    I have a better understanding now of love
    but not of loss.
    I have children & a wife, happy & healthy,
    none of whom has suffered
    anything uncommon to middle class bubbles.
    No cars have been mangled,
    the seats & buckles haven't failed, and AAA arrives
    in the rare moments we need help.
    Teachers love my children & share good news.
    No detentions or reports burden us.

    It has often been this way, this flow of joys
    interrupted with the rare heartbreak.
    Music & books, clouds & birdsong sustained me
    while my wife worked hard into the night,
    Friends & concerts, nights laughing in parks
    while my parents struggled & sacrificed for me.
    Grad school prolonged an untested belief in beauty
    when others suffered & lost (& even died).

    Perhaps now I'm fueling a reserve
    of good will, good health, & good fortune
    to draw upon in some hospital years from now.
    Experts, harried, will explain the diagnosis,
    my family will adjust their schedules,
    will delay long-hoped-for plans, will lose sleep,
    caring for the frail me I can only imagine.
    May I have the strength to find the joy then
    that I take for granted now. May my family
    feel that the end of a good life need not be a loss at all.




    This was originally just the first & the last stanzas. Adding the middle one made it a kind of sonnet, in my mind.


  • perpetual light.

    September 23rd, 2025
    Robert Indiana, Love Cross
    My first grade teacher was a tall
    kind-hearted joyful woman.
    Her hair was perfect, symmetrical
    waves of the brightest red
    framing her clean forehead,
    blooming from the front of her veil.
    We were told
    that her hair went far
    down her back.
    I never saw it.
    My mother did.

    I loved that teacher with
    something about as pure as
    how she loved me, about as pure
    as how she loved Jesus. I loved
    her so much that I was jealous
    of how she loved other kids,
    of how sometimes my mom
    talked to her and had business
    with her that didn't include me.

    There's a photo of a bicentennial cake
    taking up her entire classroom:
    Donated refrigerator boxes covered
    with construction paper, toilet paper
    tubes fashioned into two hundred
    birthday candles. And another photo
    of our First Communion, innocent
    children lined up by height, led by her
    to the altar, identical Amens
    synchronized and choreographed
    to purity and perfection.

    And picture day, a rare day
    out of our uniforms. I had a new shirt
    with Mexican embroidery on the pockets.
    At the front of the line, she stood,
    dabbing Vaseline on each student's lips.
    She put her hands on my shoulders and told me
    I was handsome. "Smile, honey."

    Her name was Sister Rosaline. That entire year she taught me first grade, she also served as a prison chaplain, as she did for years after. After she retired from teaching, she served in hospital ministry until her death in 2007.

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